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A Young Man Requires Treatment For His Extreme Depression and Intimate Relationship Problems and For His Alcoholism and Drug Dependency

Sunday, June 13th, 2010

About eleven months ago I had dinner with a forty-nine-year-old man named Alexander who suffers from extreme depression, has relationship issues, and who is addicted to drugs and alcohol. As mentioned by Alexander, it is his alcoholism and drug addiction and his severe depression that had the most to do with his perpetual relationship and friendship difficulties, especially those that concern love.

I recall hearing that a history of mental health concerns, drug abuse, and careless and hazardous drinking commonly happen in the same family. Moreover, I remember hearing that in such situations, an individual needs to get counseling for both medical conditions and that dependency and mental health problems tend to occur in the same individual.

As stated by Alexander, he is so overcome by his intimate relationship problems and by both of his medical problems that he in effect has no aspiration to accomplish much of anything. What is especially unfortunate about this is that earlier in his life, Alexander completed four semesters of grad school in environmental and urban studies.

Alexander’s situation makes me question if he is an illustration of an individual who can look in the mirror and see his drug abuse and alcohol drinking problems and do something constructive about these issues or if he is a person who has to hit rock-bottom before he gets drug and alcohol addiction treatment that results in long lasting recovery.

The Need For a Treatment Regimen He Can Believe In and a Therapist He Can Trust

If it would be beneficial I would expect that I could suggest several websites and blogs that could possibly help him learn more about drug abuse symptoms, the stages of alcoholism, substance abuse information, and relationship difficulties. In my honest opinion, nonetheless, Alexander needs to find a rehabilitation program he can believe in and follow through over the long term and find a healthcare professional he can trust.

I could be in error but it seems to me that Alexander probably needs to look within himself regarding his drug addiction signs and alcoholic symptoms and understand the fact that he cannot use drugs or drink at all if he wants to get sober, stay sober, and start on the route to long-lasting sobriety.

It may be asked how treatment would help his alcohol and drug dependency. For starters, there are several recently produced doctor-prescribed drugs that can help Alexander avoid an alcohol or a drug relapse, help him through the drug and alcohol detox process, and help him through his withdrawal symptoms.

Second, Alexander would learn to acknowledge the fact that there is completely nothing affirmative about drug abuse and unhealthy and abusive drinking and that involving himself in one or both circumstances is the route to deteriorating health, shattered relationships, a premature death, financial difficulties, legal problems, and poor work and school performance.

Third, treatment for his relationship difficulties and his depression might help him cope with these psychological problems more effectively and help create less of a need for him to involve himself in addictive behavior.

The Significance of Support Groups Such as Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous

There are feasibly several friends, family members, and other people who would desire to help Alexander with his drug abuse and his abusive and unhealthy drinking. He possibly would experience greater tolerance from a support group such as Narcotics Anonymous or Alcoholics Anonymous, on the other hand, rather than listening to individuals who do not drink or who have never used drugs.

When People Accomplish Things They Love and About Which They Are Passionate

There’s a philosophical attitude that proclaims that people who accomplish things they love and something about which they are dedicated arrive at a splendid place in life. Stated more exactly, when people do what they enjoy, they hardly ever experience an uneventful life or boredom. If they get involved in something that is gratifying, moreover, they become more complete and experience more pleasure and delight in life, in their friendships, and in their relationships.

When this is thought about even for a few minutes it becomes obvious that this uplifting state of mind is quite a bit different from a life that is grounded in alcohol and drug dependency because such a lifestyle removes the contentment and delight that life offers.

Due to the fact that Alexander doesn’t have the determination to achieve much of anything in his life, it is plain to see that he desperately needs some hope for a healthier life. And the unfortunate thing is that hope is almost everywhere around Alexander if he could only get to the place in life to get the counseling he requires for his acute depression and drug dependence and alcohol addiction and remain in his treatment routine.

More Positive Relationships, A Wonderful Life, Self Respect, and Beneficial Change Are a Reality

Alexander is simply too young to be dejected in life. He doesn’t realize this right now but if he can learn how to stay away from alcohol and drugs through alcohol and drug rehab and get the counseling he needs for his intense depression, he can redirect his life and start living with passion, direction, and with self-respect.

Better relationships, positive change, self respect, and a wonderful life are certainly possibilities for Alexander if only he could get motivated to seek the medical rehabilitation he requires, follow through with his treatment regimen, live his life in a healthy and dependency-free manner, and learn how to develop a more positive attitude about his life.


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Law of Attraction Coach Explains: Take Back Your Creative Control, You Deserve It

Saturday, May 15th, 2010

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Coach , writes… …

Perhaps you have heard of the ‘Bucket of Crab’ mentality. I mean the kind of thinking that says “if I can’t have something, neither can you.” It’s a form of invalidating another person’s success by dragging that person down to their level. It sometimes is expressed by a friend or family member who doesn’t like or discourages you from striving for a greater goal or going beyond what is typically the norm for the culture. Everyone’s been there.

It is the same in a tribal mentality. The tribe is used to serve and keep the culture safe and thriving. Each person has a clearly defined and very valuable role and function. If you desired to reach beyond (as is our very nature) you literally risked the safety of the tribe. You are taught: “I cannot go past what the tribe needs of me, that would mean I would be cast out and experience certain death”. You’d be exiled and not given food or water and without another tribe for many miles.

However, you are wired to create. Your inherent nature is to go beyond, express, want, and manifest. Then reach for another fun thing or dream to fulfill. I’ve read that before a child reaches five years old, they have been told the word ‘No’ over 60,000 times! It would seem that our nature and our cultural values are conflicted with each other.

It is a small wonder conflicting beliefs, critical mental monologue and fear of success haunt us most of the time. It’s been battered into our programming. The psychological phenomena is known as cognitive dissonance. It’s like static in your head when you hold many opposing thoughts at the same time. This dissonance becomes detrimental and desires resolution. It gets resolved in one of two methods. Either by returning to old, known patterns, or by allowing yourself to let go of the old to strive for a better place mentally. A Law of Attraction Coach can assist you in completely changing your experience with expert life coaching.

It’s a small wonder with the programming we have adopted that it can feel so hard to make any lasting changes. The truth is, it is not your fault. Do not blame yourself and heap more negative judgements on yourself. You’re not to blame. Law of Attraction Relationships are supremely rewarding and fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams! Think of a partner who has every quality you have ever desired in a lover.

It is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to grab your power back. You’ve always had the ability to decide who you are and control that. Your word is creative. And even more intensely, your mental dialogue in conjunction with emotion are creative and attractive. Glare the limiting programming in the face and boldly choose a different possibility for yourself. You were meant to thrive and create. You have the confirmation by the Universe. Relationship Attraction has never been more powerful as a result of the discovery of the Law of Attraction.


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Law of Attraction Coach Shares: Don’t Stress So Much. Let the Universe Handle the Details

Friday, May 14th, 2010

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Expert , writes… …

We’ve all been trained in logic, to use our rationale, to verify the facts, gather sound data, substantiate it all and tell the truth. However, do your senses verify what is true or simply what you’re observing? Even in modern science it’s been proven that the simple act of observation changes the possibility of the outcome of the experiment. This is due to the influence of people’s intentions. What!? We have the ability to change that which we are observing? That is right, and the idea is based on our expectations and intentions. It’s the Law of Attraction at work!

We actually have the ability to change what happens in our lives by what we think, what we think is going to happen, and how we feel. When what we think and what we think are going to happen sync, it’s what’s called alignment, and manifestation ensues. Using the Law of Attraction is an incredibly powerful tool for Relationship Attraction, and it’s easy to understand.

There is so a lot more leverage in aligning your energy. It’s the way of least resistance, or the path of ultimate allowing. Now, your life becomes in alignment with what you want and expectations instead of from forcing an outcome.

Our bodies perform millions of biological and chemical functions a day, every time lacking conscious thought. The Universe splendidly keeps track of the orbits of planets, stars, and solar systems with more precision than an atomic clock.

This all happens without effort. There is a higher organizing force functioning that our mere brain can truly conceive. We are intimately linked to the energy that moves everything. In fact, it is who we are at our most fundamental level.

Life needn’t be plagued with stress, force, and striving. Success, fulfilment, and ease is the human race’s natural birthright. As a part of this elegant Universe, we have such properties. You can understand what it feels like to be in alignment with Universal Law when you take a few moments of silence, turn inward and simply relax. A Law of Attraction Coach can help you today to free yourself from old limiting thought patterns that inhibit your happiness.

All it takes is a moment to tap in to the energy that moves the Universe and realize that you are an integral part of all that is. You are known, you are powerful, and you are meaningful.


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Love is like pi – natural, irrational and very important

Saturday, April 24th, 2010

Love is natural, irrational and very important – as succinct a definition of this intangible emotion as anyone has found, so thanks to Lisa Hoffman for having the clarity of thought to provide it. Love is the most important of all the feelings and emotions we experience; it binds families and strangers alike in the most powerful of emotional connections and of all human feelings, it has the greatest physical impact in our world.

For love, wonders of the world have been built, wars fought, cures found, continents discovered and immeasurable happiness and sadness for billions.

There are many glib quotes dealing with love and marriage but while humorous they fail to grasp the importance of loving and being loved. Certainly, a wry sense of stereotypical humor can be gleaned from love being blind but marriage the cure, nevertheless, it’s a very sad man or woman who is not loved. Love is more than a potent feeling of bliss created by the release of chemicals and hormones, love defied definition and remaisn the greatest most redeeming quaality within humanity.

Love at first sight may seem a miracle, but the really miraculous thing is when two people discover they have been looking at each other for a lifetime. Love is what glues and binds people together but there is not free. Free love is a myth because it is the most expensive commodity of all – it is plentiful and almost inexhaustible, so by the laws of supply and demand it ought to be free or at least very cheap. Ask anyone who is in love with their partner what value they would put on the feelings they have of being loved and in loving and the credit card catchphrase, “Priceless!” will be the most common honest answer.  Love is not about wedding rings, engagement rings, flower arrangements, or prenuputial agreements.  It is something tangible, but intangible.

Love is the great leveller in society and human relationships – it transcends geography and distance, bridges racial divides and has no respect for social status, wealth or education. Love can make its presence felt in milliseconds or take years to nurture, it follows its own rules and no-one knows what they are. Is this irrational? Certainly it looks that way, but we cannot be sure simply because we don’t know what love is – we can see what love does to and for people.

Is it irrational to be happy because we are loved? To be loved is a great feeling and very important for our well-being and sense of self – it is one of the greatest presumptions of arrogance to want to be loved. Who we really are is probably best defined by who loves us and perhaps by how long we have been loved.

Love and marriage are disparaged with enthusiasm, but if this combination is such an unholy alliance, why then do so many individuals seek it out and remain married for decades. Even those who divorce will usually remarry – our communal and personal experience is to partner love with marriage – this is basic to our nature but why do we do this? Perhaps Mark Twain has the answer, “Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.”

 


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Law of Attraction Coach Shares Self-Help Tips

Friday, April 23rd, 2010

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Specialist , writes… …

Ever wondered how it is you are receiving what you’re getting in life? What you’re thinking and feeling is perpetually going to be a match to what’s arriving in your life. You can easily see if you’re a vibrational match to your wants based on you are manifesting.

Your ideas are electric and transmit, while your emotions are magnetic and they attract. As you have probably read by this point, the Universe is responding to what you’re thinking and feeling instead of simply the things you are saying. You might be saying “I want more money,” while the Universe is responding to “He or she desires the experience of desiring more money. Wonderful, let’s send her more of that.” It’s in fact quite literal. Using the Law of Attraction is a hugely powerful tool for Relationship Attraction, and is simple to understand.

What you’re thinking and what you’re getting is perpetually a match. You’re always asking, even if you don’t realize it. You are asking by the dominant vibration you’re offering. What is your dominant vibration? Is it insecurity, or worry? Is it shyness or courage? Is it low self-esteem or high expectation? It is worth it to notice what your dominant vibration is and then doing something to amplify your positive emotions. A Law of Attraction Coach can help you right now to free yourself from old limiting thought patterns that inhibit your happiness.

What you think, muse over, or imagine, is creating a reaction from your emotions in you and that is an indicator of what your vibrational level is. You are projecting onto the Universal movie screen what you’re thinking so the Universe knows what to begin sending back to you. You have ultimate creative control over what you receive. Only you have control over your rational mind and emotions. No person can take that away from you. Why not try starting to deliberately offer your vibration?

If what you’re experiencing isn’t what you desire, then you must put more time into imagining what it will be like when you have precisely what you want. How will you feel? What sorts of things will you do? How much fun, joy, and peace will you be living? We knew how to use our imaginations when we were kids. Begin using more of your imagination. You can create your own Law of Attraction Relationships today to help increase your positive vibration!

When you desire to make an increasingly favorable life you need to spend more time WHAT-IF-ing instead of WHAT-IS-ing. Place your attention to that which you desire, how it will feel AS IF you have received it already and become a magnet to your desire.


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Some Signs of Betrayal Indicated by Cheating Girlfriend: A General Review

Thursday, April 22nd, 2010

A cheating girlfriend could often ruin a man’s love life, although the case is valid the other way round too. Infidelity is common occurrence in our society and lots of couples are marred by it. Although we tend to consider that women are more faithful, the ‘cheating girlfriend’ phenomenon is not exactly a rare occurrence. And we don’t refer to statistical reports here. Lots of web sites and magazines publish tips, suggestions and even talk about signs that would point the finger to a cheating girlfriend.

Sudden changes of look and a more provocative style of dressing are sometimes interpreted as signs for a betrayal. But you should not get all jealous or jump to conclusions at the slightest of transformations. Women do pamper themselves from time to time, but they often do so to boost self-esteem and keep their partner’s interest vivid. You need to compare your impressions and read other non-verbal body signs before you can even start to worry.

How emotional is your girlfriend, and how is your love life going? When you start noticing a decreased intimacy level, the emotional relationship definitely goes through a crisis. A cheating girlfriend would behave differently then she used to in your best days. Moreover, if your girlfriend wears all sorts of sexy underwear but refuses to make love to you, then, she is probably involved somewhere else, and you need to get things out in the open.

It is very problematic for a man’s ego when he discovers a cheating girlfriend. This is a direct blow for his manhood and the reaction may be very intense during a confrontation. Some people cry, others yell and break thing, there are even cases when things get violent. Men need a lot more time to heal because there are not only hurt feelings but a severely bruised ego too.

If you are reading this material, you most certainly have suspicions of a cheating girlfriend or you are trying to recover from a painful breakup. The advice you receive from objective parties could actually help you figure out what to do in a certain situation. You decide what to do with your life and how to put everything into practice. Even if you feel hurt right now and you think that you’ll never love or trust again, there will be someone special who will melt your heart again. Smile, there are better days ahead of you!

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Relationship Coach Shows How to Truly Utilize the Law of Attraction

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Expert , writes… …

I allow you permission to feel wonderful for no good reason right now!

Today, I wave my magic wand and give you a free pass to allowing yourself freedom from anxiety, impatient nature, frustration, and aggravation.

Just let go. When you let go, you’re letting go of resistance. When you release resistance, you’re in the allowing mode. The allowing mode is just moving the resisting energy out of the way so that you can be an open vessel for your desire to come to you. A Law of Attraction Coach can assist you enormously in the area of intentional creation and shedding yourself of limiting thoughts.

If you say you want a husband who is good-looking, adores you, is stable in his financial situation, and has great relationships with his parents and ex-wife (if she even exists), and that makes you feel elated – however, your very next thought is, “Oh sure, look at my debt. What man wants to take me on with that. I’d better get that taken care of first.” Now you’re headed in the other direction from what you truly want. You’re reverting back to resistance. Manifesting Law of Attraction Relationships becomes easier with the assistance of a Life Coach.

Much of the time resistant energy is hard to detect simply due to how we’re used to being. I asked one client why she desired to create more money. She said “I want to make more money because I like how it feels to be able to get the things I want and I hate going to my husband for money.” Start attracting the love relationship you have always desired with a Relationship Coach.

Did you see what happened there? In the very same sentence, she cancelled out what she desired by allowing more of what she didn’t desire. “I desire this simply because I don’t desire this other thing.” This isn’t an efficient way to attract, people. Get clear concerning what you desire. Focus on what you DO desire, not on what you DON’T desire. Then simply start creating. Practice being happy for no good reason. Marci Shimoff wrote a great book called “Happy For No Reason.” You will find many great practices to get you in the ‘happy for no reason’ frame of mind.

Resisting energy is what’s halting halting what you desire from manifesting.

Right now, I’ll wave my magic wand and allow you to feel wonderful for no good reason today. Better yet, get your own magic wand and use it today!

Have a great day being free from any resistance!


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Is Your Marriage A Three Ring Circus

Wednesday, March 31st, 2010

I am married and I want a ‘do over’. After many years of marriage I came to the realization that I wanted a ‘do over’ but not the kind you’re thinking of now. I suddenly knew that I would marry her again and again. You can feel that way every day.

Make a list of everything she does that annoys you. Ask yourself how many times you have made a stupid comment about that habit. Ask yourself if the ruined mood was worth it. Would any of the things that set you off be important if you thought you were going to lose her?

She constantly parks our eddie bauer convertible under a shade tree at work. I have asked her not to do that because stuff falls out of the tree and sticks to the paint job. I get steamed washing the car to protect the finish.

I have asked her a million times to hang the wet towels up in the bathroom so they will dry. Please don’t leave the toothbrush in the shower and remove the baby bath toys after this kids are bathed. When I fall over in the shower the only thing to save my head will be when it hits the wet wadded towel.

She took my home space heaters out of the utility room and put them in the garage for a scout meeting. I am remodeling the utility room and my heaters were keeping the pipes from freezing. She forgot to put them back.

The day she was showing property to clients turned to night. I could not reach her and she had not contacted me. I was upset and as time passed I became concerned. This was out of character. When she got home I learned about the accident on the bridge that resulted in a three hour detour.

Her small acts of annoyance did not seem important. I made a list and turned them into positives. I was positive that I did not car where she parked as long as she made it home each day. I was certain that the number of times I was grateful she was the mother of our children outnumbered the toys in the tub. She can give away all my heaters because she provides the warmth to our shared life.

My attitude is one of gratitude that we have a friendship that caught fire years ago. I talk to her like I would a friend at work. I kiss her at least once a day. I make sure to tell her that I love her daily. I’m in love with my best friend. They have a name for that and it’s marriage.

Creating Lasting Love on Valentine’s Day

Friday, March 19th, 2010

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Nanette Geiger, Relationship Coach , writes… …

Valentine’s Day draws out the romantic in many of us. At the very least, it is a day that we would LIKE to have the romantic drawn out in us. Whether you are in a relationship or not, when you think about Valentine’s Day do you not remember those silly little cupid cards we would send around to our classmates in grade school or the cards we made in class for our Moms?

Several memories and reminders we have concerning Valentine’s Day and what it means to be in a relationship or not can make us experience positive or negative emotions, depending on the past. Unfortunately, the majority of what feelings we experience, regardless of what our relationship status is is brought to bear upon us by the repetitive thinking that has been ‘out there’ in the mass consciousness.

Do not listen to what they are saying. Do not pay attention if it does not uplift and empower you. You are excellent just the way you are.

If you desire a relationship and don’t have one, great! You have the opportunity to get clear on exactly what you want. Now you are in a perfect area to begin to manifest a relationship from a renewed ‌initial point.

If you’re in a relationship and are not very content with the way it’s going, no problem. Now you can better understand what you DO want in a loving relationship, based on the contrast you are currently dealing with. Get a free Relationship Coaching session today, no strings attached!

Valentine’s Day, whether you’re in a relationship or not, can be a day where you celebrate the romance that’s coming to you! But, you have to be proactive in this. You’re the one who gets the first say and has the creative control of what you desire in your relationship. A Relationship Coach can help you get clear on what you want and help you achieve the relationship of a lifetime!

Here’s where many of us sleep on the job. We’re waiting for the circumstances to change out there. We’re waiting for him to take charge. We’re hoping that if we give him enough hints, he will step up and finally get into gear. WRONG. Don’t do that. That is letting yourself be at the effect, instead of the cause of your life. You make the decisions. The only thing you have to do is make a gentle request, to your current spouse or lover or to the Universe. Then, you will have to step out of the way. You must let go of the how, the what, and the when of your request. Attaching yourself to the outcome is basically resisting what you desire. You cannot say “Come in” with your hand pushing the door shut and expect it to enter. Perhaps that is easier said than done. But that’s why life coaching exists for those of us who need to gain clear on why we are not getting what we desire and then help us to align with what we do so it may be delivered. If you want to get a head-start on attracting the love of your dreams, you can get great coaching from a Law of Attraction Coach. Get your free consultation today!

It basically boils down to three steps. Ask, Align, and Allow. Simple, right? Not necessarily easy. Ask yourself “What could be available to me in a loving, aligned, co-creative partnership?” “What would I be capable of in my life if I had a mutual, loving relationship”? Think Big! Now start to play in the vibration of how your life would appear and feel like if you were enjoying that currently. Use your imagination – remember what you did so effortlessly when you were a child?

I am continuously deeply moved when I remind myself of all of the amazing miracles I’ve attracted by way of creating my beloved husband. A little over 4 years ago, I was one of those people who had more unsettling closings to relationships than I would want to admit. Then, I took this Attraction stuff seriously. I did the play/work. I removed my barriers to love, got aligned and quickly attracted the love of my life.

This Valentine’s Day, this year, I hope you are as blessed as I am in your relationship. I know you deserved it. By the way, a relationship is an ongoing co-creation, as is life. I wish you a happy life, true love and perfect creation.

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Don’t Judge a Woman by Her Looks!

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

I understand this tip could sound very cliché, however it’s true. At some purpose or another we’re all guilty of judging one thing, or someone, primarily based on look alone. While it’s not right, we still appear to possess that tendency to be superficial. This sort of behavior will be terribly detrimental when it involves seducing a woman. Ladies like to be appreciated for who they’re, not what they appear like. Even those ladies who have nice physical beauty don’t necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone.

Women keep the thought in the rear of their mind that in the future they’ll want to have a child. If and once they become pregnant, have a look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere truth that their body has to expand at a terribly rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the data that their figure might never be the identical is equally frightening.

Another thought that girls have is that eventually we all age and less youthful in appearance. We have a tendency to apprehend that in general, a man is considered additional distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas girls just look old. Some wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for girls the primary sign of a wrinkle is cause to contemplate botox treatment, or more. Society has made girls really self conscious. Remember when considering what you truly believe is important in an exceedingly woman. If looks is high on your list it can surely result in a very dissatisfying expertise for you, and your woman.

I’m not attempting to say that you have got to resolve to be pleased with someone you find totally unattractive. Girls all have preferences in looks, temperament and many different traits that we have to abide by. It’s a matter of compatibility. But what ladies do have to require into consideration is that attraction isn’t simply a matter of physical appearance. Therefore take the time to find out what’s inside before you discount women based on what’s outside.

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