Advice - Double Your Intimacy
Have you started to figure out that it can be harder
to stay in love than to fall in love? Do you want to add twice the love to
your relationship? If so, there are several powerful steps you can take
today to begin doing that.
One skill you can use to double the love you feel is called Playful
Intimacy. This is a tool that you can learn in minutes and use to add to the
love you feel starting today.
Playful intimacy starts with you thinking of 3 or four things that mate
could do that would make you feel more loved or appreciated. Start with
short 5 minute easy acts that would make you feel good.
It could be a back rub, give you a big long hug, wear sexy lingerie around
the house, cuddle on the couch for a few minutes after you get home from
work, help you cook dinner and talk about your day. Start with short, simple
things that wouldn't take your mate long to do them, but that would make you
purr or feel appreciated or loved some.
Once you have your list, you are halfway home to doubling or tripling the
love you feel in your relationship. You have successfully identified things
that your mate could do that would make you feel good.
Then all you need to do is make Intimate Requests for what's on your list.
You ask them to cook dinner as usual but this time wearing sexy lingerie.
You ask for a 5 minute back rub when you get home from work. Whatever.
The key to this skill is you not expecting your mate to figure out what
makes you feel loved today, not expecting them to read your mind. You figure
it out and then ask playfully, with a sense of humor. You ask without too
much expectation, so its okay if they say no. But you ask for what makes you
This way, you can add more love to your life consciously, on purpose. You
dont sit around wondering where the love has gone from your relationship.
You figure out what makes you feel loved and you ask. You cause love instead
of sit around moping about not having it. Then ask your mate what makes them
feel loved and do that for them. You can try this today and see what
Turn this insight into action. Make up a list
of what you would find loving in your marriage. Then ask! You've
got to ask to make this work!
Then ask your mate what would work for them, and do
that! See how this helps your marriage