Marriage Advice - Love
Studies have been done that show that over time in relationships the feeling of love diminishes. The studies looked at several factors like frequency of touch, eye contact, verbal connection, and other factors.
This is because love is not just some mysterious, awesome feeling that just comes in and out of our lives. The feeling of love has many causal connections. For example, eye contact is an indicator of love. Over time we tend to look in the area of the eyes when talking with our mate.
This is not as powerful as direct eye contact, which in the beginning of our relationship we made more often. So eye contact is a causal factor for intimacy or its lack.
Looking at several love factors, the
studies have shown that across the board in most marriages intimacy
factors decrease over time.
Connective talk is simple. You say things like "nice to see the sun out today." Your mate responds with "yes it is. You say something like "I think I'll spend some time in it cleaning the patio off." Your mate says "that will be good. I have to work late today, so I'll miss out on the sun mostly." You say...
Small connective talk is simply
sharing observations about your day and life with your mate.
Marriage Advice Action Plan:
1. How much small talk do you engage in now with your spouse? How interested are you in their daily dramas? How interested are you in theirs? Start being interested and sharing small talk with your mate about these things.
2. Consider how to nurture your mate more through appreciation. How often do you express some appreciation for your spouse directly to them, in a love note or a hug?
Marriage advice about love is good to learn. A little relationship intelligence can go a long way in providing the type of marriage guidance that can help your relationship to thrive. Spending some time learning relationship IQ can pay off for years down the road. Marriage advice doesn't need to be hard to understand or follow! Take an insight and try it in your marriage today.
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