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Marriage Advice On Using Feminine Energy

We got married, most likely, because we felt true love.   We searched diligently for it, sometimes it takes years to find the it, then we are faced with a problem.   The honeymoon phase of our love life ends and we start to separate some and get on with our own goals and career and true love can start to fade.   We can start to feel like the love is leaving our marriage.  How could something so special start to go away?  Why don’t I feel as close and loved as I used to? 

These are issues we all must face, because, unlike in romantic comedies, you don’t fall deeply in love and feel that feeling forever.  It waxes and wanes, it goes away, it comes back.  That’s going to happen.  You can count on it.  The trick is to develop habits and practices that help love to grow and sustain itself in the relationship.  The more of these practices we have the better the quality of our marriage.

One such powerful practice that helps keep true love alive in a marriage is being interested versus interesting.  “Interesting” people try to maintain relationships by having things to say, by focusing conversations on themselves and the dramas in their lives.  There is nothing wrong with this, of course, and you need your spouse to have things be all about them from time to time.

However, another powerful strategy for maintaining love in a relationship is to be “interested” in your mate on a regular and frequent basis.  One way is to show interest in their daily dramas.  We all have daily dramas.  It could be the boss at work is being a pain.  It could be we aren’t sure the teacher for our kids is paying enough attention to their needs.  It could be that we are feeling upset and we aren’t sure why.

If you are alive, you have some daily drama.  That’s just the way it is.  You are going to have some worries and concerns each day or week of your life.    Well, to help keep true love alive, you simply need to pay attention to your partner’s daily dramas.  Find out what they are worried or concerned about.  Know what victory or successes that are striving for, what failures they are seeking to avoid.

Next, chat with them every day about those things in what is called “small talk.”  Ask your mate about how the boss treated him or her today, did it get better or worse?  Ask about how the teacher dealt with your kids over the homework issue.  Studies have actually shown that the more small talk there is in a marriage, the happier the couple is.  So use the dramas in your marriage to keep true love alive!

Marriage Advice Action Plan:

1.  Do you know the dramas in your spouses life?  What are they trying to accomplish?  What are they worried about?

2.  Talk to your lover about your dramas and ups and downs and theirs each day.  See how connected you start to feel!

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