Advice - 3 Top Love Acts
When it comes to marriage, something that we all seem to want
more of at core is
intimacy. That feeling of close connection with our spouse. It is a
basic need that drives us to get into marriage. Yet after we
get into a relationship we find that intimacy can slip from our grasp and
out of our love life.
There are ways to keep this from happening. True love and intimacy are
meant to be expressed. It is meant to be given away freely. It is not
supposed to be just a private inner feeling. So if you want more feelings of
love in your marriage, try these three love acts:
1. Listening to your mate like your life
depends on it. Giving the gift of truly listening to another is a definite
expression of deep love. Turning off our own thoughts and focusing deeply on
what another thinks and says is a generous, unselfish act that makes the
other person feel important and nurtured.
2. Another expression of true love is simply direct eye contact with
the object of our affection. Looking them right in the eye, drinking them in
while they or we are talking. The eyes are the windows of the soul, and
direct connection is powerful. Studies show that direct eye contact tends to
fade over time in relationships. Keep it alive!
3. Then, of course, there is the direct action of touch. Not just in
the bedroom, but find ways to touch out in the world. Hugs and/or resting a
hand on their shoulder. People are often touch starved, so un-starve them!
There's a lot more to expressing love, but listening, looking and touching
are always a good foundation. Don't keep the light of your love under a
bushel basket. Take it off and let it shine as often as you can, and see
what a difference in makes in your " and our " world.
There are entire books that can be and have been
written about each of these topics, so this is obviously just an
introduction, but these are a great place to start to improve your marriage
Turn these love acts into habits by practicing each
one every day for about 30 days. See how this helps your marriage